Relationships
I have been watching Dr. Phil and i have some thoughts about how I he works with people…My thought is what is the most important thing to teach people about relating…
Well if there is a teaching, it is to learn to stay out of your partners business…Dr. Phil and other have programs that give you step by step directions for success…
In my own life I am learning to ask myself the question what am I believing in the moment…What do I believe I would have if my partner behaved differently…and usually I think I would have more understanding, a better relationship, peace…So what do I do to get this peace. I shout, demand, manipulate and get angry, ignore them, to have peace…I have begun to notice it doesn’t work it seems to give me what I don’t want rather then what I want…
Since I have the work of Byron Katie or rather the work has me. I take a break breath and do the work on what I thought being angry, shouting and demanding, would give me…and I come to see that its painful for me I hurt myself, and I stop (when I can) some times I say,” lets start over”…I love when I can do that…the result seems to be, I like me better and I have what I want, which is an intimate connect with the person I am with most of the time, me…and I get to have an intimate connection with my partner…and it is none of my business how she reacts…I take care of my part and how I react…and that is more kind to me and to her…I love that…
Thank you.
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Sagar is a trained Gestalt therapist, Hypnotherapist, Certified Facilitator of “The Work™ of Byron Katie” and a Masters in Science of Guidance and Counseling. Sagar has been working with individuals and leading groups and workshops in the private sector and the corporate world internationally for over 25 years. He has staffed many courses and workshops given by Byron Katie.
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