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— Stretch your mind — Using the work of Byron Katie

Sagar — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 07:50:55 +0000

Our judgments run our lives. We judge others and ourselves and our life situations– how our friends should act, whom our children should care about, what our parents should feel, do, or say. What our thoughts should be, what our bodies should be like. Rather than suppress these judgments, we use them as the keys to our awaking. Transforming everyday life into joy, playfulness, clarity and kindness. We awaking our inner wisdom and discover how to live out of it. Related posts:

Byron Katie Event Amsterdam

Sagar — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 20:01:19 +0000

For those of you who missed this event. Well, that was for me wonderful learning and good to be in the atmosphere of the work. The most important thing for me was to hear and see Katie helping people stay in the work and not to leave the work for their story.

What is the work it is IQ. Investigate (the inquiry) the thoughts that you are believing that cause you suffering. And Question them using the 4 question that are the work. Katie calls The Work the 4 questions the mechanics for coming out of pain and suffer and dis-pare.

You can down load all that you need to get started straight away doing the work on a painful reoccurring thoughts. Just click on the link below from the resource page.

http://www.thework.com/dothework.php

The resources are free. And if want to experience the work immediately you can call the help at no charge and an experienced facilitator who is part of the institute for the work will do the work with you. You can also contact a certified facilitator to work with in your area or over Skype. This is the link: http://www.thework.com/facilitators.php

You can also find a certified facilitator to work with. It not necessary and when the mind is stuck it can help move you.

You can find my information on thework.com and on my contact details.

Love is Just a four Letter word

Sagar — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 13:52:27 +0000

I have heard Byron Katie say “no story no world”. So what is your story creating your world?

Unlimited thinking WD 40

Sagar — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 17:20:02 +0000

Becoming Unstuck from everything

What is WD 40? It’d s spray oil we use it on almost everything which is stuck and needs to be freed from it’s rust or water damaged.

“It took them 40 attempts to get the water displacing formula worked out. WD-40_®—which stands for Water Displacement and perfected on the 40th try—is still in use today.” and un-sticking all sorts of things.

So what is the point of talking about WD 40?

I happen use on my bicycle chain and used lots of on my motorcycle and old VW Beetle.
It took 40 tries to get it working. The only thing they knew that there is a way out of being stuck and rusted and things need to be moving again.
Where is your focus. Wayne Dyer has talked about fly was not done by focusing on not flying and get iron ships to float was not done by focusing on the sinking of things. focus on getting things moving.
If you can identify, the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. You are in the beginning of the process of getting unstuck. Focusing on what is not working in your life, will give you more of what does not work and then becomes the proof that life is stuck and sucks. (And there is a book called why your life sucks by Alan h. Cohen worth reading).

Now back to WD 40 and the work of Byron Katie.

Using the JudgeYourNeighborworksheet down loadable at http://www.thework.com/dothework.php is the first step to identify your thoughts that are keeping you stuck (rusting and not moving). Then we apply the WD 40 that is the 4 questions and the turnarounds: http://www.thework.com/dothework.php to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck. And it could take 40 times or 1 time or 100 times to become unstuck. Just think of it if the Wright brothers gave up after their first attempt. We would still be sitting on the ground wondering if we could fly? And just like in the case of developing WD 40 you never know when you suddenly become free or fly.

Applying the 4 questions and turnarounds to your stuck thoughts and then suddenly you are unstuck and free to fly. Love you Sagar give me a call to become unstuck.

Do You Believe in god ?

Sagar — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 21:22:27 +0000

Someone today at a birthday party asked me if I believe in god? As I was taking about thework Byron Katie. Or something I can believe in, something beyond, more then myself. Where I could ask for guidance and help.

So for a long time at this party I was thinking what is it I wanted to say. And then someone talk about grace. And she was a singer and she stared to sing amazing grace. And that is what I want to share with you this person who asked the question and with you. What is god? I don’t know. Katie says, “god is good and god is everything”. So for me I will go with that and grace. Because as that lady sung amazing grace tears came to me and I could just fall on the ground and be grateful. Thank you. Amazing what a simple question can bring into being at an apparent ordinary party. I am so grateful for that simple question that left me in awe of what is. Thank you for listening.

finding Kindness & questioning your thoughts

Sagar — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 13:25:04 +0000

why I love this is it teach me to keep looking within to free myself

What is The Work™ of Byron Katie?

Sagar — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:06:09 +0000

Time Magazine refers to Byron Katie as an innovator for this millennium.

The Work™ is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, and to address your problems with clarity.

Byron Katie had an experience in 1986 that she calls “waking up to reality.”

“I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.”

The Four Questions came out of her direct experience with ending her own suffering and invitations from others to share what she had discovered. Quickly realizing that sharing her own insights did not give others the same freedom she had found, the four questions came as a tool to help others free themselves from their own stressful beliefs about the world around them.

The Four Questions are now known as The Work™ of Byron Katie.

They are:

Is it true?
Can you absolutely know it’s true?
How do you react when you believe the thought?
Who would you be without the thought?

Then, turn the statement around and find examples of how the opposite might actually be true.

By answering these questions for ourselves we can experience reality without our projections and interpretations.

It’s not the questions that make The Work™ so powerful.

It’s the answers that we discover that bring us insight and freedom. Reality is always kinder than our thoughts.

People who do The Work™ as an ongoing practice report life-changing results.

Alleviation of depression: Find resolution, and even happiness, in situations that were once debilitating.
Decreased stress: Learn how to live with less anxiety or fear.
Improved relationships: Experience deeper connection and intimacy with your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, and yourself.
Reduced anger: Understand what makes you angry and resentful, and become less reactive, less often, with less intensity.
Increased mental clarity: Live and work more intelligently and effectively, with integrity.
More energy: Experience a new sense of ongoing vigor and well-being.
More peace: Discover how to become “a lover of what is.”

Find more information on the official websites of The Work™ of Byron Katie:

www.thework.com

www.instituteforthework.com

www.byronkatie.com

For more information, read The Little Book– excerpts from Loving What Is

See The Work™ in Action (video clips of Katie) here.

Read some examples of The Work™ in action here.

Other Resources.

Why not be kind?

Sagar — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:31:00 +0000

I have been listening to Wayne Dyer and Byron Katie on being kind…

What is being kind? I have discover being kind is saying hello, smiling at someone asking how is your day…

What it is to be kind? Why not be kind. That is kind to myself and for me it looks like, how are you doing, have a great day.

I was on the tram (here in Amsterdam) I saw someone listing to music and rocking back and forth, I said enjoying the music, the person looked like they did not speak English, however she gave me a big smile and a sign she was enjoying the music and the contact…Why not be kind?

Perhaps you can be kind to you today and make someone smile…

I love that for myself…

Do You Believe in god ?