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		<title>— Stretch your mind — Using the work of Byron Katie</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Nov 2011 07:50:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sagar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Our judgments run our lives.  We judge others and ourselves and our life situations– how our friends should act, whom our children should care about, what our parents should feel, do, or say. What our thoughts should be, what our bodies should be like.  Rather than suppress these judgments, we use them as the keys to our awaking.  Transforming everyday life into joy, playfulness, clarity and kindness. We awaking our inner wisdom and discover how to live out of it. 
 

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi come join me for two days 12th &amp; 13th Nov. 2011. Focusing on TheWork.  Stretch your mind, come out of the I am right into space and freedom and living a kinder more loving life. At the East West Center in Antwerp. See below for more information. Love Sagar</p>
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		<title>The Past is only a Possibility: According to Hawking and Mlodinow</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Mar 2011 15:37:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sagar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The past has happened in all possible ways. Or everything is possible. Or there are infinite possiblities which one do you pick?

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<p>Investigate you thing as suggested by the work of Byron Katie will leaves you with infinite possibilities, to live you life  kinder, loving,  creative and  harmonious.</p>
<p>According to Hawking and Mlodinow, one consequence of the theory of quantum mechanics is that events in the past that were not directly observed did not happen in a definite way. Instead they happened in all possible ways. This is related to the probabilistic nature of matter and energy revealed by quantum mechanics: Unless forced to choose a particular state by direct interference from an outside observation, things will hover in a state of uncertainty.</p>
<p>For example, if all we know is that a particle traveled from point A to point B, then it is not true that the particle took a definite path and we just don&#8217;t know what it is. Rather, that particle simultaneously took every possible path connecting the two points.</p>
<p>Yeah, we&#8217;re still trying to wrap our brains around this.</p>
<p>The authors sum up: &#8220;No matter how thorough our observation of the  present, the (unobserved) past, like the future, is indefinite and  exists only as a spectrum of possibilities.&#8221;</p>
<p>Article from live science by <a href="http://www.livescience.com/php/contactus/author.php?r=cm">Clara Moskow</a></p>
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		<title>Love is Just a four Letter word</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Mar 2011 13:52:27 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have heard Byron Katie say &#8220;no story no world&#8221;. So what is your story creating your world?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[WD-40 and "The Work of Byron Katie" becoming un stuck by identify what are the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. And then question them.
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<dt class="wp-caption-dt"><a href="http://changeyourmindchangeyourlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/3oz-can43896571.jpg"><img class="size-thumbnail wp-image-415 " title="WD 40" src="http://changeyourmindchangeyourlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/3oz-can43896571-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="147" height="150" /></a></dt>
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<p>What is WD 40? It&#8217;d s spray oil we use it on almost everything which is stuck and needs to be freed from it&#8217;s rust or water damaged.</p>
<p>&#8220;It took them<strong> 40 attempts</strong> to get the water displacing formula worked out. WD-40<sub>®</sub>—which stands for Water Displacement and perfected on the 40th try—is still in use today.&#8221; and un-sticking all sorts of things.</p>
<p>So what is the point of talking about WD 40?</p>
<ol>
<li>I happen use on my bicycle chain and used lots of on my motorcycle and old VW Beetle.</li>
<li>It took 40 tries to get it working. The only thing they knew that there is a way out of being stuck and rusted and things need to be moving again.</li>
<li>Where is your focus. Wayne Dyer has talked about fly was not done by focusing on not flying and get iron ships to float was not done by focusing on the sinking of things. focus on getting things moving.</li>
<li>If you can identify, the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. You are in the beginning of the process of getting unstuck. Focusing on what is not working in your life, will give you more of what does not work and then becomes the proof that life is stuck and sucks. (And there is a book called why your life sucks by Alan h. Cohen worth reading).</li>
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<p>Now back to WD 40 and the work of Byron Katie.</p>
<p>Using the JudgeYourNeighborworksheet down loadable at http://www.thework.com/dothework.php is the first step to identify your thoughts that are keeping you stuck (rusting and not moving). Then we apply the WD 40 that is the 4 questions and the turnarounds: http://www.thework.com/dothework.php to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck. And it could take 40 times or 1 time or 100 times to become unstuck.  Just think of it if the Wright brothers gave up after their first attempt. We would still be sitting on the ground wondering if we could fly? And just like in the case of developing WD 40 you never know when you suddenly become free or fly.</p>
<p>Applying the 4 questions and turnarounds to your stuck thoughts and then suddenly you are unstuck and free to fly. Love you Sagar give me a call to become unstuck.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you ever feel motivated to fix someone, here is a word of advice: Nothing is more annoying to you than someone who tries to change you or coerce you to their way of thinking. Ultimately you become only more defiant. Why would you expect someone else to respond otherwise? No one wants to be fixed. They just want to be loved. No one wants to be labeled. They just want to be appreciated. No one wants to be seen as defective. They just want to be whole. When you appreciate people for who they are, you create an ideal environment for them to grow. When you focus on their positive qualities and emphasize their talents, they will feel so accepted and empowered that their dysfunctions will have no reinforcement, and melt away naturally. Advice, pressure, and punishment do not heal. The great healer is love.</p>
<p>Trying to fix others is a long, frustrating, and ultimately losing battle. You will never succeed because you began with three false premises: 1) There is something wrong with them; 2) You know what their problem is and how they should be living instead; and 3) You have the right and power to choose for them or to force them to make the choices you think they should make.</p>
<p>It seems easier to try to change others than to face your­self. Yet it is not your purpose to repair another person. Your purpose is to wake up. You need not fix yourself because you are not broken, and you need not fix others because they are not broken. rather than try to change them, upgrade your vision.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you questioning what you believe? That is all that is left to come out of pain.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This example of the work, show that the work works only when you do the work. You can think about it, you can understand what the work is. However if you do not use it; apply it and live it your, life does not change. And it show thework lived is an on going process of questioning your long heald beliefs.</p>
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<p>This recording for me shows the courageousness of this women and her willingness to put what is happening out there.</p>
<p>Katie is clear loving and to the point. The work works when you question the mind. And it might take 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months; it&#8217;s your and my freedom we are talking about.</p>
<p>The recording is taken from The New Years Cleanse that Katie leads in LA. It takes place over 4 days and Katie does the work with participants from 10 &#8211; 5 each day.</p>
<p>Some one in the cleanse said I was told to get ready for the ride and I thought I know what that meant&#8230;and I was not prepared for what a ride it is. It is a wonderful way to end the year and to give your self a present. Enjoy the ride of this recording. This recording is the property of Byron Katie, Inc.</p>
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		<title>&#8216;You&#8217;ve got to find what you love,&#8217; Steve Jobs says</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
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<td colspan="2" valign="top">This is something from Steve Jobs. a talk he gave a Stanford Univeristy.</p>
<p>I enjoyed reading it. It reminds me to be present to look at what i have and when i move out of where i am to come back to the power is in the present moment. and we (I) forget i have &#8220;thework of Byron Katie&#8221; to remind me. I found this inspiring and to trigger your thinking.</p>
<p>Stanford Report, June 14, 2005</td>
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<p><em>This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of  Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12,  2005.</em></p>
<p>I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the  finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college.  Truth  be told, this is the closest I&#8217;ve ever gotten to a college graduation.   Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That&#8217;s it. No big  deal. Just three stories.</p>
<p>The first story is about connecting the dots.</p>
<p>I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed  around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So  why did I drop out?</p>
<p>It started before I was born.  My biological mother was a young, unwed  college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption.   She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so  everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and  his wife.  Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute  that they really wanted a girl.  So my parents, who were on a waiting  list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: &#8220;We have an  unexpected baby boy; do you want him?&#8221;  They said: &#8220;Of course.&#8221;  My  biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated  from college and that my father had never graduated from high school.   She refused to sign the final adoption papers.  She only relented a few  months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to  college.</p>
<p>And 17 years later I did go to college.  But I naively chose a college  that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class  parents&#8217; savings were being spent on my college tuition.  After six  months, I couldn&#8217;t see the value in it.  I had no idea what I wanted to  do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it  out.  And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved  their entire life.  So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all  work out OK.  It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was  one of the best decisions I ever made.  The minute I dropped out I could  stop taking the required classes that didn&#8217;t interest me, and begin  dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.</p>
<p>It wasn&#8217;t all romantic.  I didn&#8217;t have a dorm room, so I slept on the  floor in friends&#8217; rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to  buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday  night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple.  I loved  it.  And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and  intuition turned out to be priceless later on.  Let me give you one  example:</p>
<p>Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy  instruction in the country.  Throughout the campus every poster, every  label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed.  Because I had  dropped out and didn&#8217;t have to take the normal classes, I decided to  take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this.  I learned about serif  and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between  different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great.   It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science  can&#8217;t capture, and I found it fascinating.</p>
<p>None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life.   But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh  computer, it all came back to me.  And we designed it all into the Mac.   It was the first computer with beautiful typography.  If I had never  dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never  had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts.  And since  Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would  have them.  If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on  this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the  wonderful typography that they do.  Of course it was impossible to  connect the dots looking forward when I was in college.  But it was  very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.</p>
<p>Again, you can&#8217;t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect  them looking backwards.  So you have to trust that the dots will somehow  connect in your future.  You have to trust in something &#8211; your gut,  destiny, life, karma, whatever.  This approach has never let me down,  and it has made all the difference in my life.</p>
<p>My second story is about love and loss.</p>
<p>I was lucky – I found what I loved to do early in life.  Woz and I  started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20.  We worked hard, and  in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a  $2 billion company with over 4000 employees.  We had just released our  finest creation &#8211; the Macintosh &#8211; a year earlier, and I had just turned  30.  And then I got fired.  How can you get fired from a company you  started?  Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very  talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things  went well.  But then our visions of the future began to diverge and  eventually we had a falling out.  When we did, our Board of Directors  sided with him.  So at 30 I was out.  And very publicly out.  What had  been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.</p>
<p>I really didn&#8217;t know what to do for a few months.  I felt that I had let  the previous generation of entrepreneurs down &#8211; that I had dropped the  baton as it was being passed to me.  I met with David Packard and Bob  Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly.  I was a very  public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley.   But something slowly began to dawn on me – I still loved what I did.   The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit.  I had been  rejected, but I was still in love.  And so I decided to start over.</p>
<p>I didn&#8217;t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple  was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.  The heaviness  of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner  again, less sure about everything.  It freed me to enter one of the most  creative periods of my life.</p>
<p>During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another  company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would  become my wife.  Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer  animated feature film, <em>Toy Story</em>, and is now the most successful  animation studio in the world.  In a remarkable turn of events, Apple  bought NeXT, I retuned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT  is at the heart of Apple&#8217;s current renaissance.  And Laurene and I have  a wonderful family together.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn&#8217;t been fired  from Apple.  It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient  needed it.  Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick.  Don&#8217;t  lose faith.  I&#8217;m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was  that I loved what I did.  You&#8217;ve got to find what you love.  And that is  as true for your work as it is for your lovers.  Your work is going to  fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied  is to do what you believe is great work.  And the only way to do great  work is to love what you do.  If you haven&#8217;t found it yet, keep looking.  Don&#8217;t settle.  As with all matters of the heart, you&#8217;ll know when you  find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and  better as the years roll on.  So keep looking until you find it.  Don&#8217;t  settle.</p>
<p>My third story is about death.</p>
<p>When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: &#8220;If you live  each day as if it was your last, someday you&#8217;ll most certainly be  right.&#8221;  It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33  years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: &#8220;If  today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about  to do today?&#8221;  And whenever the answer has been &#8220;No&#8221; for too many days  in a row, I know I need to change something.</p>
<p>Remembering that I&#8217;ll be dead soon is the most important tool I&#8217;ve ever  encountered to help me make the big choices in life.  Because almost  everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of  embarrassment or failure &#8211; these things just fall away in the face of  death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are  going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you  have something to lose.  You are already naked.  There is no reason not  to follow your heart.</p>
<p>About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer.  I had a scan at 7:30 in  the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas.  I didn&#8217;t  even know what a pancreas was.  The doctors told me this was almost  certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect  to live no longer than three to six months.  My doctor advised me to go  home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor&#8217;s code for prepare to  die.  It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you&#8217;d  have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months.  It means to  make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as  possible for your family.  It means to say your goodbyes.</p>
<p>I lived with that diagnosis all day.  Later that evening I had a biopsy,  where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and  into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells  from the tumor.  I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that  when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started  crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer  that is curable with surgery.  I had the surgery and I&#8217;m fine now.</p>
<p>This was the closest I&#8217;ve been to facing death, and I hope its the  closest I get for a few more decades.  Having lived through it, I can  now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a  useful but purely intellectual concept:</p>
<p>No one wants to die.  Even people who want to go to heaven don&#8217;t want to  die to get there.  And yet death is the destination we all share.  No  one has ever escaped it.  And that is as it should be, because Death is  very likely the single best invention of Life.  It is Life&#8217;s change  agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new  is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the  old and be cleared away.  Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite  true.</p>
<p>Your time is limited, so don&#8217;t waste it living someone else&#8217;s life.   Don&#8217;t be trapped by dogma &#8211; which is living with the results of other  people&#8217;s thinking.  Don&#8217;t let the noise of other&#8217;s opinions drown out  your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow  your heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want  to become.  Everything else is secondary.</p>
<p>When I was young, there was an amazing publication called <em>The Whole Earth Catalog</em>,  which was one of the bibles of my generation.  It was created by a  fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he  brought it to life with his poetic touch.  This was in the late 1960&#8242;s,  before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made  with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras.  It was sort of like  Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was  idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.</p>
<p>Stewart and his team put out several issues of <em>The Whole Earth Catalog</em>,  and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue.  It  was the mid-1970s, and I was your age.  On the back cover of their final  issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you  might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous.  Beneath  it were the words: &#8220;Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.&#8221;  It was their farewell  message as they signed off.  Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.  And I have  always wished that for myself.  And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I  wish that for you.</p>
<p>Stay Hungry.  Stay Foolish.</p>
<p>Thank you all very much.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Helvetica;">Is this you? Do you seek love and approval? That is why I love the work you start looking at what you can give yourself. You investigatee your though the 4 question and you come to find you are ok as you are with or with out that person that you thought you could not survive without.</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Helvetica; color: windowtext;"> </span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-right: 3pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Helvetica;">When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful. Another person can love you totally in that moment, and you&#8217;d have no way of realizing it. If you act from fear, there&#8217;s no way you can receive love, because you&#8217;re trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 11pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Helvetica;">But once you question your thoughts, you discover that you don&#8217;t have to do anything for love. It was all an innocent misunder­standing. When you want to impress people and win their approval, you&#8217;re like a child who says, &#8220;Look at me, Look at me&#8221; It all comes down to a needy child. When you can love that child and embrace it yourself, the seeking is over.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 11pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Helvetica;">Quote from: Byron Katie: How to stop seeking love approval, and appreciation and Start Finding them Instead.</span></p>
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		<title>Laughing Meditation</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 24 Jul 2010 10:07:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sagar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Laughing Meditation bring peace into the world.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today is Saturday and I have tried the Laughing meditation in Vondelpark, Amsterdam&#8230;If you have not done it&#8217;s a great experience. And it left me more quite, more open and relaxed. I also notice I could relate and hear people with having to change their minds or give feed back or even have a conversation. It was a wonderful-place to be. It reminded me of doing thework of Byron Katie and how the work leaves you fresher and clearer and open to experience life in all it&#8217;s flavors.</p>
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		<title>Not knowing is true knowledge</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Jul 2010 09:59:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sagar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[To think you know something is to believe the story of a past. It's insane. Every time you think you know something, it hurts, be¬cause in reality there's nothing to know. You're trying to hold on to something that doesn't exist. There is nothing to know, and there is no one who wants to know it.
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<h2>From a thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie Chapter 71</h2>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Cambria;">&#8220;To think you know something is to believe the story of a past. It&#8217;s insane. Every time you think you know something, it hurts, be­cause in reality there&#8217;s nothing to know. You&#8217;re trying to hold on to something that doesn&#8217;t exist. There is nothing to know, and there is no one who wants to know it.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-right: 2pt; text-align: justify; text-indent: 22pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Cambria;">It&#8217;s so much easier to know that you don&#8217;t know. It&#8217;s kinder, as well. I love the don&#8217;t?know mind. When you know that you don&#8217;t know, you&#8217;re naturally open to reality and can let it take you wherever it wants to. You can drop your identity and be who you really are, the unlimited, the<strong> </strong>nameless. People call me &#8220;Katie,&#8221; but I don&#8217;t ever be. Believe it.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 22pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Cambria;">Someone says, &#8220;I&#8217;ll be here at nine o&#8217;clock.&#8221; No one can know what it&#8217;s like for someone with no future to watch a clock become nine. The event is so miraculous that there are no possible words for it. It&#8217;s one minute past eight, then suddenly it&#8217;s two minutes past eight, according to a clock that is always pointing to now. And now it&#8217;s eight?thirty, and now, all at once, it&#8217;s nine, and the person shows up?just pops out of nowhere?from a past that doesn&#8217;t exist. I am in continual amazement at such happenings.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Cambria;">Now I am walking to the living room, I think. I think that I&#8217;m on</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Cambria;">my way to open the window. I have no clue where it&#8217;s actually going;&#8221;</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">This quote works for me when I live in the I don&#8217;t know mind, it seems I am more open available less judging and life becomes exciting.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">Some of thought that come up for me while reading this quote and perhaps for you too are.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I know what they are thinkin. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I know what that look means. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I know what works or does not work. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I know how you react because&#8230; </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I know you are not able to do that.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">Or </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I need to figure it out.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times;">I have to know what to do.</span></p>
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