What happens when you don’t believe what you think. There might have been other ways and this was the way for this boy. He was honest articulate . And there are no victims. And Casey does not call himself a victim. A boy who is bullied turns the event around. He is modest unassuming and honest.

Now this is the title and  he is not a victim though the mind would like to make it so. He is not a hero and again this is mind trying to make somethe what they are not. Could be he is a person that respond to what is for him.

For those of you who missed this event. Well, that was for me wonderful learning and good to be in the atmosphere of the work. The most important thing for me was to hear and see Katie helping people stay in the work and not to leave the work for their story.

What is the work it is IQ. Investigate (the inquiry)  the thoughts that you are believing that cause you suffering. And Question them using the 4 question that are the work. Katie calls The Work the  4 questions the mechanics for coming out of pain and suffer and dis-pare.

You can down load all that you need to get started straight away doing the work on a painful reoccurring thoughts. Just click on the link below from the resource page.

http://www.thework.com/dothework.php

The resources are free. And if want to experience the work immediately you can call the help at no charge and an experienced facilitator who is part of the institute for the work will do the work with you. You can also contact a certified facilitator to work with in your area or over Skype. This is the link:  http://www.thework.com/facilitators.php

You can also find a certified facilitator to work with. It not necessary and when the mind is stuck it can help move you.

You can find my information on thework.com and on my contact details.

I have heard Byron Katie say “no story no world”. So what is your story creating your world?

Becoming Unstuck from everything

What is WD 40? It’d s spray oil we use it on almost everything which is stuck and needs to be freed from it’s rust or water damaged.

“It took them 40 attempts to get the water displacing formula worked out. WD-40_®—which stands for Water Displacement and perfected on the 40th try—is still in use today.” and un-sticking all sorts of things.

So what is the point of talking about WD 40?

1. I happen use on my bicycle chain and used lots of on my motorcycle and old VW Beetle.
2. It took 40 tries to get it working. The only thing they knew that there is a way out of being stuck and rusted and things need to be moving again.
3. Where is your focus. Wayne Dyer has talked about fly was not done by focusing on not flying and get iron ships to float was not done by focusing on the sinking of things. focus on getting things moving.
4. If you can identify, the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. You are in the beginning of the process of getting unstuck. Focusing on what is not working in your life, will give you more of what does not work and then becomes the proof that life is stuck and sucks. (And there is a book called why your life sucks by Alan h. Cohen worth reading).

Now back to WD 40 and the work of Byron Katie.

Using the JudgeYourNeighborworksheet down loadable at http://www.thework.com/dothework.php is the first step to identify your thoughts that are keeping you stuck (rusting and not moving). Then we apply the WD 40 that is the 4 questions and the turnarounds: http://www.thework.com/dothework.php to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck. And it could take 40 times or 1 time or 100 times to become unstuck.  Just think of it if the Wright brothers gave up after their first attempt. We would still be sitting on the ground wondering if we could fly? And just like in the case of developing WD 40 you never know when you suddenly become free or fly.

Applying the 4 questions and turnarounds to your stuck thoughts and then suddenly you are unstuck and free to fly. Love you Sagar give me a call to become unstuck.

20 question that could change your life

This is close to the work of Byron Katie and is not the work. For me, as a result of looking at what you believe testing it with the 4 questions of  “thework”. You then will be living these 20 questions(with the answers) and the way to live will come out of your understanding and clarity and experience. And when you move back into suffering confusion and unhappiness. You can begin again, find you way back though doing the work of Byron Katie. By simply filling in a JYN worksheet found at www.thework.com, which helps you identify thoughts creating your suffering and then questing them with 4 questions and moving into turn around of your original statements. So these 20 questions that can could change your life are really 4 questions that change your mind and lead to living a changed life. as I read this again please go to www.thework.com look around watch some videos do thework and you will find your own answers. L. Sagar

Is this you? Do you seek love and approval? That is why I love the work you start looking at what you can give yourself. You investigatee your though the 4 question and you come to find you are ok as you are with or with out that person that you thought you could not survive without.

When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful. Another person can love you totally in that moment, and you’d have no way of realizing it. If you act from fear, there’s no way you can receive love, because you’re trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people.

But once you question your thoughts, you discover that you don’t have to do anything for love. It was all an innocent misunder­standing. When you want to impress people and win their approval, you’re like a child who says, “Look at me, Look at me” It all comes down to a needy child. When you can love that child and embrace it yourself, the seeking is over.

Quote from: Byron Katie: How to stop seeking love approval, and appreciation and Start Finding them Instead.

Time Magazine refers to Byron Katie as an innovator for this millennium.

The Work™ is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question  thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you,  and to address your problems with clarity.

Byron Katie had an experience in 1986 that she calls “waking up to reality.”

“I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.”

The Four Questions came out of her direct experience with ending her own suffering and invitations from others to share what she had discovered. Quickly realizing that sharing her own insights did not give others the same freedom she had found, the four questions came as a tool to help others free themselves from their own stressful beliefs about the world around them.

The Four Questions are now known as The Work™ of Byron Katie.

They are:

1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know it’s true?
3. How do you react when you believe the thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?

Then, turn the statement around and find examples of how the opposite might actually be true.

By answering these questions for ourselves we can experience reality without our projections and interpretations.

It’s not the questions that make The Work™ so powerful.

It’s the answers that we discover that bring us insight and freedom. Reality is always kinder than our thoughts.

People who do The Work™ as an ongoing practice report life-changing results.

• Alleviation of depression: Find resolution, and even happiness, in situations that were once debilitating.
• Decreased stress: Learn how to live with less anxiety or fear.
• Improved relationships: Experience deeper connection and intimacy with your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, and yourself.
• Reduced anger: Understand what makes you angry and resentful, and become less reactive, less often, with less intensity.
• Increased mental clarity: Live and work more intelligently and effectively, with integrity.
• More energy: Experience a new sense of ongoing vigor and well-being.
• More peace: Discover how to become “a lover of what is.”

Find more information on the official websites of The Work™ of Byron Katie:

www.thework.com

www.instituteforthework.com

www.byronkatie.com

For more information, read The Little Book– excerpts from Loving What Is

See The Work™ in Action (video clips of Katie) here.

Read some examples of The Work™ in action here.

Other Resources.