Is this you? Do you seek love and approval? That is why I love the work you start looking at what you can give yourself. You investigatee your though the 4 question and you come to find you are ok as you are with or with out that person that you thought you could not survive without.

When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful. Another person can love you totally in that moment, and you’d have no way of realizing it. If you act from fear, there’s no way you can receive love, because you’re trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people.

But once you question your thoughts, you discover that you don’t have to do anything for love. It was all an innocent misunder­standing. When you want to impress people and win their approval, you’re like a child who says, “Look at me, Look at me” It all comes down to a needy child. When you can love that child and embrace it yourself, the seeking is over.

Quote from: Byron Katie: How to stop seeking love approval, and appreciation and Start Finding them Instead.