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I need your love — is it true?

Sagar — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:41:47 +0000

Dear Reader!

Coming Sunday, May 20, we meet from 15-17 at the ABC Treehouse (Voetboogstraat 11) to discuss Byron Katie’s I Need Your Love, Is That True? (available in ABC’s White Room):

I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

Byron Katies book

“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by loveseeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.

This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” Byron Katie

Then on Sunday June 3, Sagar Simon and Richard Kwakernaak will give their 2-hour Relationship Workshop (if you want to attend, please reserve your seat by sending me an email!):

Free Relationship Workshop in Amsterdam!
I Need Your Love, Approval and AppreciationIs It True?

You’re invited to a free ABC Spiritual Book Club-session on Relationships by SBC-members Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon!

In the words of John Milton (Paradise Lost):

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..”

Many people look for a relationship, hoping it will be heaven, only to find out it can be hell! In the words of Byron Katie: “Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible…” What role does our mind play in creating a loving and lasting bond with someone and how can we leave our self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours behind?

In this workshop Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon look at how our beliefs, desires and attitudes about relationships, and the way we communicate, influence the quality of our relationships with other people and with ourselves.

They will approach the subject of relationships from various viewpoints, elaborating specifically on the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness and The Work of Byron Katie.

The workshop will be fun, revealing and leave you with tools you can instantly use when noticing stress!

*** This is an introductionary workshop for Richard’s and Sagar’s workshop series in the ABC Treehouse on June 29th, June 30rd and July 1st! ***

About Richard Kwakernaak:
Richard Kwakernaak works as a communication trainer and coach. He studied and practiced amongst other things a lot of NLP and Mindfulness. Richard has been an internationally certified trainer of NLP since almost 10 years.

About Sagar Simon:
Sagar Simon has a Masters Degree in counseling, has been trained both as a Gestalt Therapist and Hypnotherapist, and is a certified facilitator of The Work.

Date: Sunday June 3
Time: 15:00-17:00
Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11
Costs: free! But to reserve your spot, email Femke at femke@abc.nl

And saving the best for last , Byron Katie herself will come to the American Book Center Amsterdam on Saturday June 23 to do a booksigning from 15-16:30!!
More information on this event will follow!

I hope to see you this Sunday,
Warm regards,

Femke Wijdekop
American Book Center Amsterdam

— Stretch your mind — Using the work of Byron Katie

Sagar — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 07:50:55 +0000

Our judgments run our lives. We judge others and ourselves and our life situations– how our friends should act, whom our children should care about, what our parents should feel, do, or say. What our thoughts should be, what our bodies should be like. Rather than suppress these judgments, we use them as the keys to our awaking. Transforming everyday life into joy, playfulness, clarity and kindness. We awaking our inner wisdom and discover how to live out of it. Related posts:

Features Ready to Get to Work? Bring it On! Wise women (and funny ladies) Byron Katie and Jane Lynch

Sagar — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 15:30:35 +0000

Wise women (and funny ladies) Byron Katie and Jane Lynch discuss the big questions we face every day.

Ready to Get to Work? Bring it On!

Jane Lynch has spent years trying to get right with herself. In her new memoir, Happy Accidents (Voice), the actress who stars as Sue Sylvester

Byron Katie Event Amsterdam

Sagar — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 20:01:19 +0000

For those of you who missed this event. Well, that was for me wonderful learning and good to be in the atmosphere of the work. The most important thing for me was to hear and see Katie helping people stay in the work and not to leave the work for their story.

What is the work it is IQ. Investigate (the inquiry) the thoughts that you are believing that cause you suffering. And Question them using the 4 question that are the work. Katie calls The Work the 4 questions the mechanics for coming out of pain and suffer and dis-pare.

You can down load all that you need to get started straight away doing the work on a painful reoccurring thoughts. Just click on the link below from the resource page.

http://www.thework.com/dothework.php

The resources are free. And if want to experience the work immediately you can call the help at no charge and an experienced facilitator who is part of the institute for the work will do the work with you. You can also contact a certified facilitator to work with in your area or over Skype. This is the link: http://www.thework.com/facilitators.php

You can also find a certified facilitator to work with. It not necessary and when the mind is stuck it can help move you.

You can find my information on thework.com and on my contact details.

Unlimited thinking WD 40

Sagar — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 17:20:02 +0000

Becoming Unstuck from everything

What is WD 40? It’d s spray oil we use it on almost everything which is stuck and needs to be freed from it’s rust or water damaged.

“It took them 40 attempts to get the water displacing formula worked out. WD-40_®—which stands for Water Displacement and perfected on the 40th try—is still in use today.” and un-sticking all sorts of things.

So what is the point of talking about WD 40?

I happen use on my bicycle chain and used lots of on my motorcycle and old VW Beetle.
It took 40 tries to get it working. The only thing they knew that there is a way out of being stuck and rusted and things need to be moving again.
Where is your focus. Wayne Dyer has talked about fly was not done by focusing on not flying and get iron ships to float was not done by focusing on the sinking of things. focus on getting things moving.
If you can identify, the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. You are in the beginning of the process of getting unstuck. Focusing on what is not working in your life, will give you more of what does not work and then becomes the proof that life is stuck and sucks. (And there is a book called why your life sucks by Alan h. Cohen worth reading).

Now back to WD 40 and the work of Byron Katie.

Using the JudgeYourNeighborworksheet down loadable at http://www.thework.com/dothework.php is the first step to identify your thoughts that are keeping you stuck (rusting and not moving). Then we apply the WD 40 that is the 4 questions and the turnarounds: http://www.thework.com/dothework.php to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck. And it could take 40 times or 1 time or 100 times to become unstuck. Just think of it if the Wright brothers gave up after their first attempt. We would still be sitting on the ground wondering if we could fly? And just like in the case of developing WD 40 you never know when you suddenly become free or fly.

Applying the 4 questions and turnarounds to your stuck thoughts and then suddenly you are unstuck and free to fly. Love you Sagar give me a call to become unstuck.

20 Questions That Could Change Your Life from Oprah

Sagar — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:27:24 +0000

2 0 ques tion that could change your life

This is close to the work of Byron Katie and is not the work. For me, as a result of looking at what you believe testing it with the 4 questions of “thework”. You then will be living these 20 questions(with the answers) and the way to live will come out of your understanding and clarity and experience. And when you move back into suffering confusion and unhappiness. You can begin again, find you way back though doing the work of Byron Katie. By simply filling in a JYN worksheet found at www.thework.com, which helps you identify thoughts creating your suffering and then questing them with 4 questions and moving into turn around of your original statements. So these 20 questions that can could change your life are really 4 questions that change your mind and lead to living a changed life. as I read this again please go to www.thework.com look around watch some videos do thework and you will find your own answers. L. Sagar

Do You Believe in god ?

Sagar — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 21:22:27 +0000

Someone today at a birthday party asked me if I believe in god? As I was taking about thework Byron Katie. Or something I can believe in, something beyond, more then myself. Where I could ask for guidance and help.

So for a long time at this party I was thinking what is it I wanted to say. And then someone talk about grace. And she was a singer and she stared to sing amazing grace. And that is what I want to share with you this person who asked the question and with you. What is god? I don’t know. Katie says, “god is good and god is everything”. So for me I will go with that and grace. Because as that lady sung amazing grace tears came to me and I could just fall on the ground and be grateful. Thank you. Amazing what a simple question can bring into being at an apparent ordinary party. I am so grateful for that simple question that left me in awe of what is. Thank you for listening.

Yoga of the Mind—Stretch Your Mind (Do I Need Your Love, it is it true?) Byron Katie

Sagar — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 15:18:29 +0000

Title: Yoga of the Mind—Stretch Your Mind (Do I Need Your Love, it is it true?) Byron Katie
Location: Antwerp, Belgium
Link out: Click here
Description: What you say shows what you believe I can do this stretch or my body doesn’t work this way. Both are true and show’s what you believe. The body will follow the mind and one works for you and one keeps you limited.

Well it is the same for the mind. Thoughts limit our ability to move in the outer and inner world. Because we limit what we believe we limit our ability to move…

The work of Byron Katie is more like a dance. Flowing, moving, allowing, trusting the movement. And shows us what we can do without the limiting thoughts that appear in the mind.

Come stretch your mind beyond what you believe is possible.

Spend this day learning to come out of limiting beliefs and find peace with what is.

East West Centre: Van Schoonbekestraat 148, 2018 Antwerpen
Date: 2010-11-06

Ever try to fix someone?

Sagar — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 12:44:38 +0000

If you ever feel motivated to fix someone, here is a word of advice: Nothing is more annoying to you than someone who tries to change you or coerce you to their way of thinking. Ultimately you become only more defiant. Why would you expect someone else to respond otherwise? No one wants to be fixed. They just want to be loved. No one wants to be labeled. They just want to be appreciated. No one wants to be seen as defective. They just want to be whole. When you appreciate people for who they are, you create an ideal environment for them to grow. When you focus on their positive qualities and emphasize their talents, they will feel so accepted and empowered that their dysfunctions will have no reinforcement, and melt away naturally. Advice, pressure, and punishment do not heal. The great healer is love.

Trying to fix others is a long, frustrating, and ultimately losing battle. You will never succeed because you began with three false premises: 1) There is something wrong with them; 2) You know what their problem is and how they should be living instead; and 3) You have the right and power to choose for them or to force them to make the choices you think they should make.

It seems easier to try to change others than to face yourself. Yet it is not your purpose to repair another person. Your purpose is to wake up. You need not fix yourself because you are not broken, and you need not fix others because they are not broken. rather than try to change them, upgrade your vision.

Workshop using the work of Byron Katie Stretch Your Mind

Sagar — Sun, 12 Sep 2010 17:17:45 +0000

A reminder: I am giving workshop in Antwerp. 19th sept…we will look into the heart of the matter—of what we believe to be true and keeps us from having the time of our lives.

We will do the work of Byron Katie all day and learn again that we are only a thought away from laughing away our apparent troubles. Perhaps I will see you there.

to register:

http://www.owc.be/en/cursussen/detail.mv?id=3377

to learn about me: