The Relationship Transformation Workshop: 29 May 2016

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Have courage. Entrepreneurs have to be able to overcome fear and the petty criticism of others

This is the most important part of the article it relates to how do understand and leave behind our petty criticisms of others, How do we nurture others how do we have a heart. The best way i know to live this advice is to investigate and question what we believe, that would keep us from live this advice. I personally  use thework with myself and with other and introduce companies to its power to transform the working place.

My advice (From Rich Barton)

Have courage. Entrepreneurs have to be able to overcome fear and the petty criticism of others who will tell them, “You’re crazy.” Post-9/11 at Expedia, we decided that if travel didn’t rebound, we’d be in trouble, so we doubled down on our marketing. We got three to four times the bang for our buck and established market share in hotels.

Nurture the brains. Creating a work environment and culture where smart people want to work is important. Give people space and privacy, empower them to do things and take risks without the fear of being fired. Workspace is a small part of the P&L but makes a big difference.

Have a heart. Great entrepreneurs have a passion for doing something and for caring for the people who are doing it with them. Great leaders need to be able to point to the mountain, define it, and motivate people through the difficult expedition to success.

This story is from the January 14, 2013 issue of Fortune.

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Byron Katie Amsterdam Workshop 11th July @ WesterKerk, Amsterdam

11 July 2013 Amsrerdam
11 July 2013 Amsterdam

Title: Byron Katie Amsterdam Workshop 11th July @ WesterKerk, Amsterdam
Location: Westerkerk, Prinsengracht 279, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
Link out: Click here
Description: Byron Katie, bestselling author and founder of The Work, has one mission in life: to teach
people how to end their suffering. She has worked with millions of people throughout the world, many of whom report lasting transformations.
When Katie appears, lives change. As she guides people through The Work, they find freedom from their painful beliefs about other people, about
themselves, and about the world as they see it.
The Work is a way to deeply investigate stressful thoughts. Byron Katie’s four simple questions have the capacity to radically transform your life. Who would you be without your story?
Join Katie in Amsterdam to find out.
Start Time: 09:00
Date: 2013-07-11
End Time: 15:00

I need your love — is it true?

Dear Reader!

Coming Sunday, May 20, we meet from 15-17 at the ABC Treehouse (Voetboogstraat 11) to discuss Byron Katie’s I Need Your Love, Is That True? (available in ABC’s White Room):

I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

I Need Your Love
Byron Katies book

Katie, Byron|Katz, Michael | € 16.99
subject: Self Help, Personal Growth – General
ISBN: 9780307345301 | ISBN-10: 0307345300
Three Rivers Press (CA) | publication date: 28/11/2006
US Edition | Trade Paperback | 254 pages| | |

“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love­seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.

This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” ­Byron Katie

Then on Sunday June 3, Sagar Simon and Richard Kwakernaak will give their 2-hour Relationship Workshop (if you want to attend, please reserve your seat by sending me an email!):

Free Relationship Workshop in Amsterdam!
I Need Your Love, Approval and Appreciation­Is It True?

You’re invited to a free ABC Spiritual Book Club-session on Relationships by SBC-members Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon!

In the words of John Milton (Paradise Lost):

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..”

Many people look for a relationship, hoping it will be heaven, only to find out it can be hell! In the words of Byron Katie: “Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible…” What role does our mind play in creating a loving and lasting bond with someone and how can we leave our self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours behind?

In this workshop Richard Kwakernaak and Sagar Simon look at how our beliefs, desires and attitudes about relationships, and the way we communicate, influence the quality of our relationships with other people and with ourselves.

They will approach the subject of relationships from various viewpoints, elaborating specifically on the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness and The Work of Byron Katie.

The workshop will be fun, revealing and leave you with tools you can instantly use when noticing stress!

*** This is an introductionary workshop for Richard’s and Sagar’s workshop series in the ABC Treehouse on June 29th, June 30rd and July 1st! ***

About Richard Kwakernaak:
Richard Kwakernaak works as a communication trainer and coach. He studied and practiced amongst other things a lot of NLP and Mindfulness. Richard has been an internationally certified trainer of NLP since almost 10 years.

About Sagar Simon:
Sagar Simon has a Masters Degree in counseling, has been trained both as a Gestalt Therapist and Hypnotherapist, and is a certified facilitator of The Work.

Date: Sunday June 3
Time: 15:00-17:00
Location: ABC Treehouse, Voetboogstraat 11
Costs: free! But to reserve your spot, email Femke at

And saving the best for last ;), Byron Katie herself will come to the American Book Center Amsterdam on Saturday June 23 to do a booksigning from 15-16:30!!
More information on this event will follow!

I hope to see you this Sunday,
Warm regards,

Femke Wijdekop
American Book Center Amsterdam

Byron Katie Event Amsterdam

For those of you who missed this event. Well, that was for me wonderful learning and good to be in the atmosphere of the work. The most important thing for me was to hear and see Katie helping people stay in the work and not to leave the work for their story.

What is the work it is IQ. Investigate (the inquiry)  the thoughts that you are believing that cause you suffering. And Question them using the 4 question that are the work. Katie calls The Work the  4 questions the mechanics for coming out of pain and suffer and dis-pare.

You can down load all that you need to get started straight away doing the work on a painful reoccurring thoughts. Just click on the link below from the resource page.

The resources are free. And if want to experience the work immediately you can call the help at no charge and an experienced facilitator who is part of the institute for the work will do the work with you. You can also contact a certified facilitator to work with in your area or over Skype. This is the link:

You can also find a certified facilitator to work with. It not necessary and when the mind is stuck it can help move you.

You can find my information on and on my contact details.

The Past is only a Possibility: According to Hawking and Mlodinow

infinite possibilities

Investigate you thing as suggested by the work of Byron Katie will leaves you with infinite possibilities, to live you life  kinder, loving, creative and  harmonious.

According to Hawking and Mlodinow, one consequence of the theory of quantum mechanics is that events in the past that were not directly observed did not happen in a definite way. Instead they happened in all possible ways. This is related to the probabilistic nature of matter and energy revealed by quantum mechanics: Unless forced to choose a particular state by direct interference from an outside observation, things will hover in a state of uncertainty.

For example, if all we know is that a particle traveled from point A to point B, then it is not true that the particle took a definite path and we just don’t know what it is. Rather, that particle simultaneously took every possible path connecting the two points.

Yeah, we’re still trying to wrap our brains around this.

The authors sum up: “No matter how thorough our observation of the present, the (unobserved) past, like the future, is indefinite and exists only as a spectrum of possibilities.”

Article from live science by Clara Moskow

See Byron Katie in Europe this summer in Amsterdam

Byron Katie in Amsterdam 16-17 Juli

See Byron Katie in Europe this summer in Amsterdam and at the nine-day School for The Work in Bad Neuenahr, Germany.

Don’t miss this rare opportunity to do The Work with Byron Katie in Europe.

Join Byron Katie, bestselling author and founder of The Work, in a workshop that will take you on a powerful journey of self-discovery. As she guides you through her simple yet powerful process of inquiry called The Work, you will find that your stressful beliefs—about life, other people, or yourself—radically shift. With her humor and lovingly incisive clarity, Katie shows you how to do The Work and how self-inquiry can bring you a happy life.

Who Would You Be Without Your Story?


July 16, 2010, 19:00 – 21:00

July 17, 2010, 10:00 – 17:00


Montessori College Polderweg 3, Amsterdam, Holland

No advanced registration.

First come, first served.

Friday evening: 20 euros

Saturday: 80 euros

Contact: Jelle Attema


Phone: 00 31 (0)6 20 61 46 16