Have courage. Entrepreneurs have to be able to overcome fear and the petty criticism of others

This is the most important part of the article it relates to how do understand and leave behind our petty criticisms of others, How do we nurture others how do we have a heart. The best way i know to live this advice is to investigate and question what we believe, that would keep us from live this advice. I personally  use thework with myself and with other and introduce companies to its power to transform the working place.

My advice (From Rich Barton)

Have courage. Entrepreneurs have to be able to overcome fear and the petty criticism of others who will tell them, “You’re crazy.” Post-9/11 at Expedia, we decided that if travel didn’t rebound, we’d be in trouble, so we doubled down on our marketing. We got three to four times the bang for our buck and established market share in hotels.

Nurture the brains. Creating a work environment and culture where smart people want to work is important. Give people space and privacy, empower them to do things and take risks without the fear of being fired. Workspace is a small part of the P&L but makes a big difference.

Have a heart. Great entrepreneurs have a passion for doing something and for caring for the people who are doing it with them. Great leaders need to be able to point to the mountain, define it, and motivate people through the difficult expedition to success.

This story is from the January 14, 2013 issue of Fortune.

See full article @: http://money.cnn.com/2013/01/16/smallbusiness/glassdoor-rich-barton.fortune/index.html?iid=SF_T_MPM

Byron Katie Event Amsterdam

For those of you who missed this event. Well, that was for me wonderful learning and good to be in the atmosphere of the work. The most important thing for me was to hear and see Katie helping people stay in the work and not to leave the work for their story.

What is the work it is IQ. Investigate (the inquiry)  the thoughts that you are believing that cause you suffering. And Question them using the 4 question that are the work. Katie calls The Work the  4 questions the mechanics for coming out of pain and suffer and dis-pare.

You can down load all that you need to get started straight away doing the work on a painful reoccurring thoughts. Just click on the link below from the resource page.


The resources are free. And if want to experience the work immediately you can call the help at no charge and an experienced facilitator who is part of the institute for the work will do the work with you. You can also contact a certified facilitator to work with in your area or over Skype. This is the link:  http://www.thework.com/facilitators.php

You can also find a certified facilitator to work with. It not necessary and when the mind is stuck it can help move you.

You can find my information on thework.com and on my contact details.

Love is Just a four Letter word

I have heard Byron Katie say “no story no world”. So what is your story creating your world?

Unlimited thinking WD 40

Becoming Unstuck from everything

What is WD 40? It’d s spray oil we use it on almost everything which is stuck and needs to be freed from it’s rust or water damaged.

“It took them 40 attempts to get the water displacing formula worked out. WD-40®—which stands for Water Displacement and perfected on the 40th try—is still in use today.” and un-sticking all sorts of things.

So what is the point of talking about WD 40?

  1. I happen use on my bicycle chain and used lots of on my motorcycle and old VW Beetle.
  2. It took 40 tries to get it working. The only thing they knew that there is a way out of being stuck and rusted and things need to be moving again.
  3. Where is your focus. Wayne Dyer has talked about fly was not done by focusing on not flying and get iron ships to float was not done by focusing on the sinking of things. focus on getting things moving.
  4. If you can identify, the thoughts that keep you from having peace, clarity, joy and a wonderful life. You are in the beginning of the process of getting unstuck. Focusing on what is not working in your life, will give you more of what does not work and then becomes the proof that life is stuck and sucks. (And there is a book called why your life sucks by Alan h. Cohen worth reading).

Now back to WD 40 and the work of Byron Katie.

Using the JudgeYourNeighborworksheet down loadable at http://www.thework.com/dothework.php is the first step to identify your thoughts that are keeping you stuck (rusting and not moving). Then we apply the WD 40 that is the 4 questions and the turnarounds: http://www.thework.com/dothework.php to the thoughts that are keeping you stuck. And it could take 40 times or 1 time or 100 times to become unstuck.  Just think of it if the Wright brothers gave up after their first attempt. We would still be sitting on the ground wondering if we could fly? And just like in the case of developing WD 40 you never know when you suddenly become free or fly.

Applying the 4 questions and turnarounds to your stuck thoughts and then suddenly you are unstuck and free to fly. Love you Sagar give me a call to become unstuck.

    20 Questions That Could Change Your Life from Oprah

    20 question that could change your life

    This is close to the work of Byron Katie and is not the work. For me, as a result of looking at what you believe testing it with the 4 questions of  “thework”. You then will be living these 20 questions(with the answers) and the way to live will come out of your understanding and clarity and experience. And when you move back into suffering confusion and unhappiness. You can begin again, find you way back though doing the work of Byron Katie. By simply filling in a JYN worksheet found at www.thework.com, which helps you identify thoughts creating your suffering and then questing them with 4 questions and moving into turn around of your original statements. So these 20 questions that can could change your life are really 4 questions that change your mind and lead to living a changed life. as I read this again please go to www.thework.com look around watch some videos do thework and you will find your own answers. L. Sagar

    Do You Believe in god ?

    Someone today at a birthday party asked me if I believe in god? As I was taking about thework Byron Katie. Or something I can believe in, something beyond, more then myself. Where I could ask for guidance and help.

    So for a long time at this party I was thinking what is it I wanted to say. And then someone talk about grace. And she was a singer and she stared to sing amazing grace. And that is what I want to share with you this person who asked the question and with you. What is god? I don’t know. Katie says, “god is good and god is everything”. So for me I will go with that and grace. Because as that lady sung amazing grace tears came to me and I could just fall on the ground and be grateful. Thank you. Amazing what a simple question can bring into being at an apparent ordinary party. I am so grateful for that simple question that left me in awe of what is. Thank you for listening.

    On Relationships

    What is the most important aspect of a good relationship?

    • Harmony?
    • Understanding each other?
    • Working together?
    • Being in one line?
    • Cooperating?

    The reality is none of theses make for a good relationship.

    The only thing, can that affect the quality of your relationship is, the one you are having with yourself…everything else is the effect of that relationship on relationship.

    The ability to stay in your own business, to see what is true for you, and to be honest with yourself…and leave others alone…Gives you what you really want (a kind, loving life). Staying in you own business see what is really true for you, and being honest with yourself. That is the real challenge. Not getting the other to be different then they are, that is hopeless…

    From: The 7 habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey.

    We began to realize that if we wanted to change the situation, we first had to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.
    If you have the right map of Chicago, then diligence becomes important, and when you encounter frustrating obstacles along the way, then attitude can make a real difference. But the first and most important requirement is the accuracy of the map.
    Each of us has many, many maps in our head, which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are, or realities, and maps of the way things should be, or values. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps. We seldom question their accuracy; we’re usually even unaware that we have them. We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be.
    And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of those assumptions. The way we see things is the source of the way we think and the way we act.
    The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps, or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced b by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against reality, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a large picture and a far more objective view.
    Each of us tends to think we see things, as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are–or, as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe our perceptions, our paradigms, and ourselves. When other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with them. But, the demonstration shows, sincere, clearheaded people see thing differently, each looking through the unique lens of experience.’

    The expectation that the other should respect, understand and even know what you mean or want is an illusion…a painful and frustrating illusion.

    If you truly want to come out of suffering, come out of pain, out of conflict and live in really intimacy…come back home to your self. Because, there is only one place all of that suffering occurs and that is within you…(who is experiencing your pain? you are!)

    You cannot change the other, your partner, your child, your boss, your family…so who is there left to change the person closest to you, you!

    How do you do that?

    The best way, I know is to investing what your are thinking in the moment. Question your thoughts, put them on paper (Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet from Byron Katie. Once questioned and seen. Your internal world changes, everything changes…Nothing is the same because you are not the same, you can not believe what you think any more, you can not believe what you have been believing.

    How do you do that?

    How do you come away from what you believe your painful story? There are four amazing, wonderful provoking, questions from the work of Byron Katie, to ask your self:

    The 4 questions and the turnaround are:

    1. Is it true?
    2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
    3. How do react when you believe that thought?
    What happens?
    4. Who would you be without the thought?
    Turn that thought around.
    Find three genuine examples of this turnaround that are as true or truer then the ordinal statement.

    On the surface theses question seem too simplistic to easy.

    “Is it really possible that something can change from such simple questions?” If you answer these questions from the core of your being, from the heart, that means, going in and wait for the answer to appear, see what the answer really is, then it all changes.

    My partner should understand me simply become come not true.

    I should understand my partner become truer.

    I should understand myself becomes ever truer.

    My partner should not understand me also become truer.

    These turn arounds at the end of the 4 questions is very liberating.

    Gone is the pressure to have them different then they are…

    Gone is the pressure to make them something they are not.

    Come experience the power of the work…for yourself.

    You come to understand you are the one to make the relationship be what it is or isn’t.

    What is teamwork, when each person understands it’s in his or her high-test interest to live a harmonizes, caring, loving life. And it has nothing to do with the other…

    It does not mean there will not be drama and misunderstanding and regressions, it does mean you with have the skill and the tool, to return to your self and be at peace with what is.

    Call me: +31646265421

    If you like to have an amazing experience of the work…

    If you would like to learn the work of Byron Katie

    Check her out on: www.byronkatie.com

    “We are the innocent cause of our own suffering” BK

    Love sharing this with you.