Love is Just a four Letter word

I have heard Byron Katie say “no story no world”. So what is your story creating your world?

Do You Believe in god ?

Someone today at a birthday party asked me if I believe in god? As I was taking about thework Byron Katie. Or something I can believe in, something beyond, more then myself. Where I could ask for guidance and help.

So for a long time at this party I was thinking what is it I wanted to say. And then someone talk about grace. And she was a singer and she stared to sing amazing grace. And that is what I want to share with you this person who asked the question and with you. What is god? I don’t know. Katie says, “god is good and god is everything”. So for me I will go with that and grace. Because as that lady sung amazing grace tears came to me and I could just fall on the ground and be grateful. Thank you. Amazing what a simple question can bring into being at an apparent ordinary party. I am so grateful for that simple question that left me in awe of what is. Thank you for listening.

Ever try to fix someone?

If you ever feel motivated to fix someone, here is a word of advice: Nothing is more annoying to you than someone who tries to change you or coerce you to their way of thinking. Ultimately you become only more defiant. Why would you expect someone else to respond otherwise? No one wants to be fixed. They just want to be loved. No one wants to be labeled. They just want to be appreciated. No one wants to be seen as defective. They just want to be whole. When you appreciate people for who they are, you create an ideal environment for them to grow. When you focus on their positive qualities and emphasize their talents, they will feel so accepted and empowered that their dysfunctions will have no reinforcement, and melt away naturally. Advice, pressure, and punishment do not heal. The great healer is love.

Trying to fix others is a long, frustrating, and ultimately losing battle. You will never succeed because you began with three false premises: 1) There is something wrong with them; 2) You know what their problem is and how they should be living instead; and 3) You have the right and power to choose for them or to force them to make the choices you think they should make.

It seems easier to try to change others than to face your­self. Yet it is not your purpose to repair another person. Your purpose is to wake up. You need not fix yourself because you are not broken, and you need not fix others because they are not broken. rather than try to change them, upgrade your vision.